Showing posts with label How to win the heart of your wife. Show all posts
Showing posts with label How to win the heart of your wife. Show all posts
Sunday, 25 November 2012
Tuesday, 20 November 2012
KINDNESS WITH WIFE | Win the Heart of Your Wife | How Learn Quran
1. Kindness toward your wife when you wish to enter into her
It is desirable, when one goes into his wife on his wedding night, to show her kindness, such as presenting her with something to drink, etc.
This is found in the hadith narrated by Asmaa' bint Yazid ibn As-Sakan who said: "I beautified 'As'ishah for Allaah's Messenger, then called him to come to see her unveiled. H
e came, sat next to
her, and brought a large cup of milk from which he drank. Then, he offered it to 'Aa'ishah, but she lowered her head and felt shy. I scolded her and said to her: "Take from the hand of the Prophet." She then took it and drank some. Then, the Prophet said to her, "Give some to your companion."
At that point, I said: "O Messenger of Allaah, rather take it yourself and drink, and then give it to me from your hand." He took it, drank some, and then offered it to me. I sat down and put it on my kness. Then, I began rotating it and following it with my lips in order that I might hit the spot from which the Prophet had drunk. Then, the Prophet said about some women who were there with me: "Give them some." But, they said: "We don't want it." (ie. we are not hungry). The Prophet said: "Do not combine hunger and fibbing!"
her, and brought a large cup of milk from which he drank. Then, he offered it to 'Aa'ishah, but she lowered her head and felt shy. I scolded her and said to her: "Take from the hand of the Prophet." She then took it and drank some. Then, the Prophet said to her, "Give some to your companion."
At that point, I said: "O Messenger of Allaah, rather take it yourself and drink, and then give it to me from your hand." He took it, drank some, and then offered it to me. I sat down and put it on my kness. Then, I began rotating it and following it with my lips in order that I might hit the spot from which the Prophet had drunk. Then, the Prophet said about some women who were there with me: "Give them some." But, they said: "We don't want it." (ie. we are not hungry). The Prophet said: "Do not combine hunger and fibbing!"
The acts of Companions | A story of Hazrat Abu Huraira R.A | How Learn Quran
Ek baar Hazrat Abu Huraira RA bazar mein gaya aur buland awaz mein logon say kaha k "logo Masjid e Nabwi mein Muhammad SAWW ka Wirsa Taqseem ho raha hai aur tum yahan kin kamon mein lagay howay ho" to log kaam chorh ker bhagtay howay Masjid mein gaye to dekha k woahan Ahadith ke taleef di ja rahi thi , ap nay kaha k ye he to Wirsa hai Paighambar maal to nahi chorh ker jatay. wo to Ilm chorh ker jatay hain aur jis nay is Ilm ka hissa pa lia us nay ap ke wirasat ka hissa pa lia. in mein itnee tarap thi k agay anay wali naslon ko ye wirsa muntaqil kia jaye. Ahadith ka Ilm kessay agay pohncha.
*Ishaq as sabihi - 300 Ustadon say sabaq hasil kia
*Abdullah bin Mubarak - 1100 Mohadaseen say Ilam Hasil kia
*(Imam Abu Hanifa k Ustadon mein say thay)
*Malik Ibne Annas - 900 Mohadaseen say
*Hishaam bin Abdullah 1700 Shayukh say
*Abu Noyumal Asbahani 800 Ulema
*Ibne Asakir 1329 Ulima say
Ahmed Ibne Furat 1770 Shayukh say
Imam Zohri - 20 saal taak Musyub ke chokhat na chori
Hamad bin Zaid - 20 saal Ayub ke ham rakabi ke
Rabi Ibne Annas 10 saal taak Hassan Basri k saath rahay
Ibne Zarara 14 Saal Ibne Olaya k halqay mein rahay
Ibne Juraid 18 saal Atta Ibne Kissan k shagird rahay
Saabit bin Asslam 40 saal taak Imam Malik k Dars k Halqay mein shamil rahay
This post is written in roman Urdu.
Saturday, 17 November 2012
Muslim Marriage | How to win the heart of your wife | How Learn Quran
It Will Work Insha Allah
2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that, buy her a gift just to say thank you for something small she did, like ironing your shirt before work.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (Pbuh) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5. Love her parents and her family like you do your own, buy them gifts and offer to visit them often. This will make her happy because she will know that her parents mean a lot to you.
6. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (Pbuh) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even when he was fasting.
7. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!
8. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
9. Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (Pbuh) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah ( R.A ) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
10. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (Pbuh) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
11. Listen to her attentively, no woman wants to feel like she is being ignored, when she is talking, take what she says seriously and give some positive feedback.
12. Be a man! Don't act feminine, women want a real man who appreciates the feminine qualities in his wife. When you're out hold her hand. When in a crowded area don't walk 10 steps ahead of her without looking back. Don't cross the road without her. Your job is to look after her so without being over protective learn to show that you care about her safety.
13. Show your affection for her in different ways, such as gently kissing her to wake her up for fajr or slowly wrapping your arms around her waist when she least expects it (e.g. when she's washing the dishes). Tell her you love her before you go to sleep and tell her you love her even more than the day before when you wake up.
14. When you get home from work don't talk about work. Make it seem like you couldn't stop thinking about her all day and greet her with a smile and salaam. Freshen up and go make her feel like you haven't seen her for a month.
15. Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger (Pbuh): "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.” Try to be the best! In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - ta’ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta’ala knows best!!
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